God whispers three ways to end an argument.

Have you ever had a pillow fight? What about a verbal battle with words? Conflict erupts like a volcano, decimating anyone in its path.

Beloved, I am struggling with the word today, argument. When was the last disagreement you experienced? What was the fight about? Do you grapple with conflict like I do?

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Defining argument is the act or process of arguing, reasoning, discussing, or an angry quarrel or disagreement—this word is found in the Bible fifteen times, with five times being in Job.

My husband and I do not have many arguments. Do you argue with your mate?  When we do have lively discussions, it is usually in the car.  Trust me; I am a back seat driver.

What do you do when someone engages you in an argument? Do you take the high road? Do you present facts hoping to win the fight? Do you run away, hoping the conflict will go away?

Job

The verses in Job reflect a conflict between him and his so-called friends. I recently read the book of Job as I am reading the Daily Bible in chronological order. His friends are not helpful in Job’s time of need. You see, Satan asks God to test Job, and Job loses everything except his life. He loses his children, his livestock, or lively hood, then he loses his health, and he is left to defend his position of loving God to his friends and his wife. Job is a book on conflict resolution.

Teach me, and I will hold my tongue: and cause me to understand wherein I have erred.

How forcible are right words! but what doth your arguing reprove?

Do ye imagine to reprove words, and the speeches of one that is desperate, which are as wind? Job 6: 24-26. KJV.

God

God whispers three ways to end an argument. The first way to end an argument is to listen to what the other person is saying.  We see this in Job’s response, teach me, and I will hold my tongue.

The second way is to not jump to conclusions. Job asks his friends, “Do ye imagine to reprove my words? His friends jumped to the conclusion that Job obliviously sinned and was not being forthright in maintaining his innocence.

Beloved the third way to end an argument is to agree to disagree, read Job’s response again in verse 26.

Do ye imagine to reprove words, and the speeches of one that is desperate, which are as wind? 

“Which are as wind?” could be seen as sarcastic, but Job was pointing out that it was time to agree to disagree; he had done nothing wrong.

To end an argument is often a frustrating experience. Someone usually gives in and lets the other person win, or perhaps, it is a matter of agreeing to disagree. Often as a peacemaker, one tries to keep the peace at all cost.

Conflict may be the most challenging thing we endure as Christians, especially when we have arguments with family and a close friend.

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Conclusion

Beloved, I am a peacemaker, and so I try my best to keep conflicts at a minimum. Unfortunately, I’ve endured some battles that ended several relationships, and some arguments were very hurtful.

Listening, not jumping to a conclusion, and agreeing to disagree can help end an argument. I would be remiss if I didn’t add to walk in forgiveness when we give our hurts to the Lord; he is faithful to answer our prayers.

With my husband, I walk in forgiveness, which allows me to be kind when I would like to react to the argument. Going to God in prayer with my thoughts helps me to not over-respond. Beloved at the end of the book of Job, Job is restored. God is faithful.

 

“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.” 1 Corinthians 13:4. KJV

“Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.”

1 Corinthians 13: 6-7. KJV. 

Which strategy do you employ to end a conflict?

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